Trying to create a stay at home wife schedule that works can be really frustrating.
But if you are anything like me. You love a little structure in your days. When you don’t have a daily plan it can feel stressful. But rather than looking at it as a problem. Let it be a blessing.
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Being a stay at home wife is a pretty awesome thing. You can literally plan your day however you want. Sure, there are things that need to be done but you don’t have the home management police knocking at your door checking up on you.
Now lets see about making the “perfect” stay at home wife schedule.
PAUSE! If You’re Feeling Like The Hot Mess Express?
If you are looking for a schedule that works for a stay at home wife then likely you are feeling a bit frazzled.
Take a deep breath. That is ok, I am going to walk you through a few things to help you calm your mind and create a schedule that works for you.
Before we move on I want you to do THIS!
When you are feeling stressed you need to write it all down.
In the online/blogging space we call this a brain dump. But really its just a word vomit of what is going on in your mind to help you cool your smoking wheels. 🚗🤯
Write everything down. No matter how big or small.
- Dusting the house plants
- Figuring out what’s for dinner
- Paying the bill that is due in two days.
You can do it in a note pad, in the notes app of your phone or in a google word doc.
Ok ready? Go!
The Tools Don’t Make The Perfect Schedule
I still struggle with finding the right system to manage all the aspects of life. When it comes to household management, cleaning, and time management it’s easy to think that buying just the right tool or system will do the trick.
But that’s backward.
You need to look at your lifestyle and list out EVERYTHING you do and manage. Then try to find a tool or system that works for you.
If you are still looking for the right tool to create your stay at home wife schedule here are some gools you might like to try.
Here are some awesome planners on amazon.
Erin Condren 18 – Month 2020-2021 Layers Colorful Coiled Life Planner with Flower Power Interior (July 2020 – December 2021) Hourly Layout.
Bloom daily planners 2020-2021 Academic Year Day Planner & Calendar (July 2020 – July 2021)
Create A Schedule That Works With Your Brain
This is something that we paid close attention to as kids when we were seeing a reading specialist. (Yep, I said it. Your girl is dyslexic…. Funny how life works out. Now I make an income using my words.)
You have to do things when your mind is ready to do them. You will have an up hill battle if you force things.
For example, there are days when my mind is focused and I can write all day long. Then there are other days when I can’t focus for anything. In those cases when your brain is fighting for its own way. You might be better off switching gears.
That is the beauty of creating your own schedule and being a stay at home wife. You have the option to do that.
How To Create A Stay At Home Wife Schedule
Now that your mind is clear let’s get into how to create your daily schedule that will be your baseline. Here is why I say baseline.
I don’t care how little outside influences you have on your life. Something will throw your plans off track every once in a while. As me how I know🙄
When you have a path that you can follow you are able to look at it and pull yourself back on track.
You can do this on a piece of paper but if you want bonus points. Try it on google calendar or your phone app if you do that. I want you to add the “appointment” with the total amount of time you think it will take you.
Don’t just say morning routine at 8 am. Ok, lets get to it.
- Write down your weekly “have to’s”
These are things you can’t change the time of or the day they happen. Things like church, volunteer opportunities, things your spouse might need your help with or things that will effect your time to get your own tasks done.
- Write down the things that happen daily.
These things can change but put down things like when your spouse comes home or when you normally shower, eat break-fest, and do your morning routine.
Lets be honest. When your sweet husband comes home your productivity goes down the toilet.
Set Specific Amount Of Time In Your Stay At Home Wife Schedule
Whether it’s a 5-minute task or a 3 hr task give yourself a set amount of time and when the time is up. Then you are done.
Giving yourself a time limit helps you number one, not take all day. But also forces you to stay focused and not go down a whole other rabbit trail.
Have Realistic Expectations
Here is a little side note. Don’t cut yourself short trying to do a 3 hr task in 2. It just won’t work. You will end the day frustrated and annoyed at yourself. I am going to give you a quick overview of something called time blocking. You don’t have to do it every day but it is helpful to have a picture of what you are trying to fit into the time you have available.
Stay At Home Wife Schedule Examples
Below are some easy ways you can write out your daily schedule.
Below is an example of using google docs if you are on the computer a lot. Or the notes app on your phone.
- 7:30 – 9:00 [1hr 30min] Morning Routine
- 9:10 – 11:45 [2hrs 35 min] Home Tasks
- Plan for dinner
- Write out tasks for the day.
- House cleaning and maintenance.
- Feed animals.
- 12:00 – 1:00 [1hr] – Lunch
- 1:15 – 5:15 [4hrs] – Work on a project.
- 5:20 – Spouse is home
- 7:pm – Dinner
You will notice there are gaps in the times shown above. I do this myself because little things like letting the dogs outside to use the bathroom add up. This keeps you from falling behind in your plan and causing yourself more stress.
Time Blocking Your Stay At Home wife Schedule
In short time blocking is setting a certain amount of time to do a particular task. Using a planning tool of some kind that has the hours marked so you can “block off” that time in your planner.
I absolutely love the Living Well Planner which you can find out more about here.
How To Organize Your Tasks By Order Of Importance
Did you do the brain dump? No? Go do it. I’ll wait.
I know I might sound like I am beating a dead horse but here is why it is so important to having a successful stay at home wife schedule. Your brain will work so much faster if you are clear about your actions. You aren’t trying to work through a whirlwind of tasks tumbling in your brain like your jeans on wash day.
Convinced yet? Good! Ok now get that list and it’s time to organize it.
There are two ways to decide which tasks or “thing” gets a place on your schedule.
Deadline and Importance.
This is where most people struggle because everything feels important. And I get that. But truly not everything is as important as it seems. I am going to give you a few examples to help you see what I’m talking about.
Choosing based on deadline.
Your water bill needs to be mailed out today in order to arrive on time. But you have a DIY project that you need to finish that is a birthday gift for your sister. The mailman comes by around 11 AM and it’s 9:30 now. Sure you COULD try to get your project done before the mailman comes. But what are the chances you would get caught up on your project and lose track of time?
Which should you do first? (…. Mail that check!!!!)
Order Of Importance Without A True Deadline
Here is an example with a grayer line.
#1. Spend 1-2hrs (notice the time limit) finding education on learning to invest your savings.
#2. You need to do the dishes and laundry.
Both are important but one is advancing your family’s future. You still have to put a time limit on things because you can’t spend all day on your task and forget about dinner. BUT when you give those important tasks time in your day first they don’t get put off.
That keeps you from putting out fires and never working on the things that will advance your life as a whole.
Have More Time In Your Schedule
When you write out your stay at home wife schedule you might find more space then you thought because you are being so productive. (no, no, its not because you are being a lazy bum moching off your husband)
There are times when you might feel a little guilty for the life you are living. People might feel like you should get a job. But 9 times out of 10. They want the life you have.
People are going to say mean things or drop a side comment they don’t realize is hurtful. Its ok if that stings for a minute. But don’t let that eat at your soul.
Now with that said If you are looking for some ideas to spice up your life I GOT YOU!
Hobbies You Can Fit Into Your Stay At Home Wife Schedule
This is something that I struggle with. I am a go-getter who has to be chasing a goal 24/7 365. It’s hard for me to shut down and relax.
But having hobbies are a GOOD THING. Having fun that is not tied to a result gives you time to rest and enables you to come back to your work refreshed and renewed.
If you are still a work in progress like me and need something that feels like it has a purpose. Here are some things that you can do that are relaxing. But you aren’t making something that you are going to pitch out when your done or sit in a box.
- DIY Projects – You can make small things like Christmas gifts things like new home decor items. Here are some posts to help you.
- Crochet or Knitting – This is something that can be tacky or something that looks normal. Sweaters, scarves, and hats are something that we normally were that way.
- Journals and Planners – If I am ever in Hobby Lobby you will likely find me walking the planner and journal aisle. The paper and possibilities make my soul happy. With all the un-dated planners and planner binders you can get creative and make a planner that works for you.
- Painting – Whether you are painting a home decor item or just honing your skills painting is a good way to lose your thoughts and relax.
- Become A House Plant Mamma – Plants indoors bring life and a welcoming feeling to your home. try your hand at house plant.
Activities With Purpose For The Stay At Home Wife
Organize your home
Now maybe you don’t struggle with having a home that is picked up but there is always that one problem area that could use a little extra help. Places like the Tupperware cabinet or that back bedroom closet.
Think of the areas that drive you crazy and make a list of those places you whish were a little more manageable. Look for ways to make it better. Look for hacks or organizing systems that might help you make that troubled spot work better.
If you are completely new to organizing or need help getting your home in better shape then you defiantly need to read this post. How To Organize Your Home And Not Get Overwhelmed
Start a side hustle
Ug this speaks to my soul! BUT if you are not self-motivated then this not for you so don’t feel bad about it. Starting a side hustle which is a business. Is not for the faint of heart. It takes a lot of time, effort, and even a little bit of tears to make a business work.
If starting a side hustle sounds like something you are ready for then read these blog posts before you jump in to see if they would be a good fit for you.
If you want some other fun but purposeful ideas to add to your stay at home wife schedule then check out this post. 18 ways to NOT be a bored stay at home wife
The Last Thing You Need to Know About Your Stay Stay At Home Wife Schedule
Your days are not always going to go as planned and that’s ok. Give yourself grace and pull yourself back on the path you set down.