Setting realistic goals as a stay at home wife is something a lot of people struggle with. It’s easy to think you can get more done then is really possible. As well as not leaving room for things to get a little off track.
Because you know what? They do sometimes. But that is the beautiful thing about being a stay-at-home wife. You have the choice to reschedule what needs to be done. You are not subject to someone else timeline.
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With that said there are so many methods of setting goals, managing time, and getting things done it can feel overwhelming to figure out what works.
To be totally honest it really doesn’t matter how you do it. So long as you are reaching your goals and living a life you set out to live. You have to try different methods on, to see what works best with the way you think and what your daily life looks like.
What Is A Goal
Before we can get into how to set realistic goals is we need to be clear on what the word goal means.
Goal Definition: the object of a person’s ambition or effort; an aim or desired result.
A goal is not always bug tasks like loosing wight or reading a book a month for the year. It can simply be a list of tasks you want to get done in a day. You can take what I am about to walk you through and apply it to big goals. Or you daily to do list.
Don’t Be Afraid To Stretch Yourself
Now, before I show you how to choose your goals. I want you to think about this first.
Don’t be afraid to stretch yourself. You won’t get ahead in life if you are not pushing yourself to do new and bigger things. I love the saying my business strategist says “what got you here, won’t get you to where you want to go.”
If you want different results you can’t keep doing the same old thing over and over again.
Now if you love where you are. Then, by all means, stick with what you are doing. But I have a feeling if you are reading this post then that is probably not the case.
What Unrealistic Goals Look Like
There are definitely unrealistic goals that are not possible unless something absolutely crazy happened. Things like going from sitting couch to running a marathon in 6 months. (I’m just making that time frame up, I have no idea if that is possible or not But you get the idea.)
Something you might be able to relate to more is organizing your whole house in one week. Even if you worked on it all day for 5 days that is crazy talk.
There are going to be some things that you are just going to have to guess at how long it will take. But also be willing to give yourself some grace if you don’t reach that goal or get that project done.
Be Realistic With The Time You Have
I am going to tell on my mom for a second. She is AWFUL about trying to pack too much into one chunk of time. She will try to do 47 things on the “way out the door”. God love her. Her intentions are good but it just doesn’t work.
A big key to hitting realistic goals is making sure you have the time to do this whatever it is. Its easy to come up with great ideas and not stop to think about your schedule looks like.
I am telling you this now because I don’t want you to start making plans without taking these two things into consideration.
Do you want to push hard and get the goal done as quickly as possible? Or do you need to take it in small chunks each day? If you are easily overwhelmed then you should probably take it a little at a time.
Whether you use paper planners or you are a digital gal I want you to go through and mark down everything that happens in your day for the next month that doesn’t change. Dontforget to mark the TIME those things will take you to do. That is key to keep from cramming to much in one day. If you don’t have a planner you love check out the planner I use every day.
- Church services
- Pre-planned dates with your husband
- Morning routines
Once you have all of these things marked down then you are ready to set your action plan for your goal.
Get Detailed With Your Plan For Reaching Your Goal
This goes for anything. You MUST be detailed with your plans to have a clear idea as to what you can accomplish in any given time.
I am going to break down the steps to painting a room so you can see how detailed I want you to be.
- Decide on a color.
- Go to the store and buy supplies.
- Remove and box up all decor in the room.
- Move all furniture to the center of the room.
- Cover all the furniture.
- Dust the walls.
- Put painters tape up.
- Trim the room with paint.
- Pain the walls
- Paint a second time if needed.
- Remove all the tape from the wall.
- Sweep the floor and check for drips.
- Put furniture back into place.
See how detailed that is? It gives you a very clear picture of what you need to do in order to get the project done.
You need to do that for every task or goal you plan to set. For extra brownie points, I want you to go back through and add a time estimate of how long each task will take you.
When To Say “Not Now”
There are gong to be items when you have to push things to a later date… and that is OK!
If you are looking at your planner and you start to feel a little stress in the pit of your stomach. Then don’t push it. Always give yourself 20% more time to complete smaller projects and 30%-50% more time on big projects like a room renovation.
Quick Tips To Not Get Overwhelmed
- Write everything down. Your brain was meant for coming up with ideas not holding them.
- Do your tasks in small chunks.
- Do a brain dump whenever your mind is feeling like a 5 lane highway at 5 O’Clock.
- Use the tools your brain likes best. Whether its a digital calendar or paper planner like this one.
- Allow for 20% more time then you think it will take.
- Give yourself grace.
Here is something I want you to remember before I let you go…
No matter how well you plan your day and life. You are going to get a little overwhelmed at some point. Its what you do with that overwhelm that matters. Are you going to let it paralyze you to the point you end up doing nothing?
Or are you going to face it head on and find a solution to the problem. You’ve got this.