Learning how to stop comparing yourself to others is not an easy thing. It takes work and is a never-ending battle that you have to keep fighting every day.
Scrolling through those pretty squares seeing someone’s beautiful home, body, spouse, or anything else for that matter.
“Don’t compare your life to others. There’s no comparison between the sun and the moon. They shine when it’s their time.” Anonymous
This quote is so powerful if you let it.
We all want our time to shine RIGHT NOW. And I totally get it. Humans are naturally driven and want to do better. But sometimes the results of our actions take time to work.
We have to give our efforts time and sometimes just wait.
Whether it is home upgrades, new cars, education, or building a business. It is easy to look at other peoples success with a ping in our hearts because we want so badly to be out of the weeds of our own life. It seems to take an eternity when it will only take a few short years.
Trust me I know what if feels like to see other people with amazing success stories and feel like you are hardly getting any traction. I heard it said from another influencer that the numbers really don’t matter. Once you get to 1,000 you want 5,000 and 10,000 to 50,000 and so on. The numbers can become all-consuming when we really just need to be grateful for that we have and where we are.
“If you continuously compete with others you become bitter but if you continuously compete with yourself, you become better.” Anonymous
Stop Comparing Your Situation To Others- You Are Not The Same
“The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind the scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.” Steve Furtick
There is so much behind the scenes that you don’t know about. People start
Maybe that person bought that beautiful Cadillac SUV and got an amazing deal. When you think they paid the lot price for it.
There is no way to know all of the intimate details of a situation looking from the outside.
You Don’t See Their Time Investment
If someone is single and lives on their own they can literally use every spare moment to grow their business, work on that project, or create that new thing. While someone who has a job and a family to take care of will grow a bit slower. And you know what? That is ok! You have blessings that they don’t.
The love and support of a family.
Don’t let the lack of extra time discourage you. It will take time but you can do it. You have to have faith and keep moving forward to that next step.
You don’t see their monetary investment
Financial investments are another huge factor that people do not see. That person you look up to could have a VA (virtual assistant) or professional ads manager who is helping them grow their business. They might have invested a large amount of cash on ads to get people to their website in the beginning.
An example that happened to me personally is a blogger who is in the same blogging community as I am because we both perched Elite Blog Academy. She was able to make a full-time income after only 10 months of starting EBA. A blog often times takes 2 years to make a full-time income. And that is with working on it full time.
That, of course, made me wonder what I was doing wrong. Then I saw a Facebook live she did in the group about what she did to move forward. She isn’t married and hired coaches and other people to help her move forward.
Once I heard that it was like someone popped a balloon and my stress level was gone. There were a lot more pieces to her story that I didn’t know or could not put into place with my situation!
What Did It Cost Them To Get To Where They Are
For life or business, there will always some part that we don’t see. While it is easy to want what others have we don’t see what it cost them to get it.
That person who has a beautiful home might be working 80hrs a week to pay for it. They are not able to spend time with their family because of it.
“Don’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle.” Tim Hiller
That successful business owner who seems to have it all on the outside grew his or her business at breakneck speed but it cost them their marriage.
I am not saying that everyone has a crisis going on behind the scenes of their success. Dreams and aspirations are a beautiful thing and can come true without the cost of something you hold dear.
Maybe Its Time To Part Ways
If you find yourself constantly wishing you were on someone else’s side of the screen, it might be time to part ways with that person. Or maybe they are causing a character to come out in you that might not be the greatest.
It was the fall of 2018 where I had found myself following a lot of home decor instagrammers and how I ended up with that many I can’t tell you. Regardless I found myself wishing for different furniture and accessories for my home. I was feeling discontented and wanted more.
Then it clicked. These women were in their mid to late 30’s who had all the decorations and were able to do every room in their house for Christmas. I was still in my first home and about 8 years behind them. I was comparing my begging to their middle. I new it was time for me to part ways.
“Comparison is the thief of joy.” Theodore Roosevelt
How To Protect Yourself From Comparison On Social
Not before you go and un-follow people you really do like I want you to use this magical button called mute. You don’t unfollow them but you will stop seeing their posts in your feed.
When you see a post of someone you don’t want to follow right next to their name in the same block as the post there are three little dots. Once you tap that there is several option and you can it mute. Then it will ask you if you want to mute post, stories, or both.
Choose which you think will help you emotionally to adjust. If you need to mute both then do so.
Facebook is another productivity killer when it comes to comparison. For pages, groups, and people (friends) there is an un-follow option on their account. So you don’t have to unfriend or unfollow if you don’t want to. BUT you can unfollow so you don’t see their posts.
“Comparison with myself brings improvement, comparison with others brings discontent.” Betty Jamie Chung
Love where you are and enjoy the journey. Put blinders on and stay in your lane. When you start to look around you get distracted. Soon you will find that you have wandered off the course and you down a path that was intended for someone else.
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