Feeling like a bored stay at home wife with nothing to do that has a purpose? Struggling to find something to do? Is a twinge of boredom slithering into your day making you feel guilty, selfish, or cause you to question your worth as a stay at home wife?
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As humans, our self-worth goes down the toilet when it feels like there is no purpose in life. We were created to have a vision for life, to have something to work towards.
As a stay at home wife, you don’t have anyone telling you what you have to do. Sure you have things that need to be done like laundry to be washed and dinner to be made. But you can do all of the “have to’s” however you please. Which is a pretty awesome thing BUT that can also be a struggle.
I remember the first Monday after I have finished school I felt lost. The thing that took up most of my time and gave me clear direction was gone. No professors to tell me what I had to do next. No path to follow. My days were free for me to fill.
… and that can be one of the hardest things to do.
If you don’t have a boss to make happy or someone else you have to touch base with. Your days are free for you to fill as well. So rather than looking at your empty calendar as a bad thing. Look at those pages as possibilities for what could be.
House Work Boredom
I am going to be the first to admit my bedside manner sucks. But lets have a quick pitty party.
House works sucks, I don’t want to do it, I wish someone else would do if for me.
Ok feel better? Na me either. (I hope that put a smile on your face)
I know that might have seemed a little extreme but taking care of your house is something everyone has to do. Not just stay at home wives.
Before I give you some ideas on how to make your housework a little more interesting I want you to think about two things first.
How do you FEEL when you think about how bad a task is. It puts a weight on your shoulders, brings your mood down, and even makes your body feel sluggish right? Why self sabatage yourself and make someting you have to do harder on yourself.
Its like holding on to a bag of chicken feed the whole day just because.
The more you tell yourself something is no fun, awful, and boring. The more you are going to believe it. The opposite is also true. The more you can say this is a blessing. It’s not as boring as it seems. I GET to take care of this house. The better you will feel about the task.
Change Up The Order To Stop Boredom
If you are like me and have a habit of being a rut dweller then you might need to change up the order you do your work in. The more your brain does without processing, the more “bored” you will feel.
Listen to something while you work.
If I am working on a project or doing something that will take me more then 10 minutes. I have something playing on my laptop or on my phone.
Here are some ideas for you to listen to.
- A show you have watched a thousand times.
- Podcasts – Search on your favorite listening app. My favorite are Grit and the Goal Digger podcast.
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Hobbies For The Bored Stay At Home Wife
This is something that I struggle with. I am a go-getter who has to be chasing a goal 24/7 365. It’s hard for me to shut down and relax.
But having hobbies are a GOOD THING. Having fun that is not tied to a result gives you time to rest and enables you to come back to your work refreshed and renewed.
If you are still a work in progress like me and need something that feels like it has a purpose. Here are some things that you can do that are relaxing. But you aren’t making something that you are going to pitch out when your done or sit in a box.
DIY Projects – You can make small things like Christmas gifts things like new home decor items. Here are some posts to help you.
- DIY Picture Ledge Self – Our Repurposed Home
- Magnetic Bulletin Board – Our Repurposed HOme
- DIY Christmas Gifts That People Actually Want
- Dollar Store Home Decor Ideas – Caroline Vencil
Crochet or Knitting – This is something that can be tacky or something that looks normal. Sweaters, scarves, and hats are something that we normally were that way.
When it comes to hats and scarves you can only have so many. So one thing you can do is donate hats to your local cancer center to help patience keep warm.
Card Making – I love paper crafts and making cards for Christmas, birthdays, or thanks yous are a grate way to get the crafting bug out but in a useful way.
Journals and Planners – If I am ever in Hobby Lobby you will likely find me walking the planner and journal aisle. The paper and possibilities make my soul happy. With all the un-dated planners and planner binders you can get creative and make a planner that works for you.
Painting – Whether you are painting a home decor item or just honing your skills painting is a good way to lose your thoughts and relax.
Become A House Plant Mamma – Plants indoors bring life and a welcoming feeling to your home. try your hand at house plant.
Activities With Purpose For The Bored Stay At Home Wife
Organize your home.
Now maybe you don’t struggle with having a home that is picked up but there is always that one problem area that could use a little extra help. Places like the Tupperware cabinet or that back bedroom closet.
Think of the areas that drive you crazy and make a list of those places you whish were a little more manageable. Look for ways to make it better. Look for hacks or organizing systems that might help you make that troubled spot work better.
If you are completely new to organizing or need help getting your home in better shape then you defiantly need to read this post. How To Organize Your Home And Not Get Overwhelmed
Create systems for your home.
Systems are simply a set way you do things. When you know exactly how you do them your brain does not have to think of what to do next. This helps you jump right into the task get your work done much faster.
Decorate you home better the way you like.
Your home is the hub of everything you do. It will inspire you and make you feel comfortable. Or it could have the opposite effect as well.
You may not be into decorating so if that is the case then feel free to skip this one. But if you wish your home felt more inviting then this is defiantly something you should be spending time on.
Helpful post – How To Decorate Your Home On A Budget
Start a side hustle
If you are not self-motivated then this not for you. Starting a side hustle which is a business. Is not for the faint of heart. It takes a lot of time, effort, and even a little bit of tears to make a business work.
If starting a side hustle sounds like something you are ready for then I want you to think about these three things before you jump in.
- How much time are you willing to invest each day? (this will help you keep it from being all-consuming)
- What do you love to talk about? (Don’t go with what sounds like it would make you the most money. That will lead you to burn out quicker than you ever thought possible.)
- What do you want your life to look like once the business is off the ground? (For example, I don’t want my business to take up too much of my time down the road once my husband and I become parents. Because of that, I’m not going to start something that will take up a lot of my time on a regular basis.)
Read these blog posts if you think a side hustle is right for you and are ready to get started.
Purge your home and sell stuff you don’t need.
You don’t need nearly as much stuff as you think you do. The less you have clouded your view of the things you love will help you appreciate the things you do have and love. You can sell the things you have that are still worth something on places like eBay or mercari.
If life is a bit crazy and you don’t want to take the time to do that then take the time to goodwill.
Start an Instagram account with the intention of doing sponsored content.
You may not be aware but you can make an income by sharing products you love or being paid to post. It takes time and a lot of work. You have to build an engaged following of at least a thousand people in order to make money.
Now that might not seem fair but here is the thing. If it was easy then everyone would be doing it. The strong ones stick it out and build an audience that knows them and trusts their recommendations.
Get a few small farm animals.
Love critters? Whether you live in the city or out of town with a bit of property you can raise a few small farm animals to give you a reason to get up in the morning. They are depending on you for care. If you raise chickens you will get a reward for your efforts in the form of fresh eggs.
Start small. Don’t go crazy because you will overwhelm yourself. I see this so many times where people get every animal that tickle’s their fancy and they are shelling out cash left and right.
Start a vegetable garden.
Whether you have a few pots and a small patio or a large back yard you can grow veggies.
- How to start a garden on a budget – Dogwoods And Dandelions
- Fast Growing Vegetables – Dogwoods And Dandelions
Start a flower garden.
I like flowers just a bit more. First, you can get ones that come back every year. And second. they are just prettier. Plus like I said a bit ago I have a hard time doing this that doesn’t make sense. like spending hours growing something that costs you pennies to buy.
I know, I know. It’s a problem.
Find something to do for your neighbors.
Whether it is something as simple as leaving a dozen cookies or eggs on their porch or mowing the grass for them. Doing something for others is a great way to make yourself feel good. We want to feel useful like we are doing something for others. this is a perfect way to do it.
Find new ways to save money.
You don’t have to sell things to add extra wiggle room to your budget. Use apps like Rakuten or Ibotta to get money back on when you shop.
- 10 Ways To Cut Your Expenses $1 At A Time – Caroline Vencil
- How To Live On One Low Income – Caroline Vencil
Whatever you choose to do know that what you do has value. As you go on this journey from feeling like a bored stay-at-home wife to a woman with purpose and meaning, know that the only opinion that matters is what you and your spouse think.
Everyone on the outside looking in doesn’t get a say on the matter unless you give them one… so don’t!